The following is taken from a Facebook post, with permission, by my friend Glen Sorge. I believe it is impossible to know the dark and devastating experience of a child that precedes their parents in death; unless the experience has happened to you. Glen offers peace with his words to those who know of this experience. Thank you, Glen, for the reminder that Christians can "Choose to Look Forward."
By Glen Sorge (guest blogger)
The biggest decision that I made in my grief journey happened in a support group one Tuesday night. It was over six years ago, almost 2-years after Ashley (Sorge) died. I was sitting in that room on the couch next to Luicia Plaza Sorge.
I looked around the room at all of the sadness. I listened to the stories of despair and hopelessness. And, I realized something. I realized that I didn't want to live in sadness and in regret of the past, which will never change.
The one I miss is Ashley, and she is not in my past. She has gone ahead of me.
I can choose to bring with me all the memories of the past; but not her. What I do hold in my heart, and carry with me everywhere I go, is the love we shared. My faith in our Father God and His Word tells me that she is ahead of me, and that I will see her again. Though I still have sad times, I now also have joy and look forward to the rest of my life.
That night was the beginning of the biggest direction change in my life. We don't have to live in the sadness and the darkness for the rest of our lives. We can choose to look forward and look up. God's light CAN shine through us. And, we CAN shine His light into the dark places around us.
I choose to look ahead and shine!