(originally written August 27, 2010)
If only I will be still and meet You there.
If only I will seek you now.
by Julie Brooks
"Noel" by Lauren Daigle!
This song...my heart becomes flush and tears flow each time I hear it. (I play it a lot...)
I hear Lauren begging us all not to miss the greatest thing that God has done! She is so passionate with this message. When I think of all the people that don't get the true gift of Christmas, JESUS, more tears flow.My mind just as easily turns to the millions struggling with mental illness, addiction, and those that will inevitably commit suicide because they see no way to stop the pain in this existence.
As if by loud speaker, the lyrics of Lauren's song roar forth, "Noel! Noel! Come and see the miracles that God has done;" He created us and all that is around us.
Much like Mary and Joseph experienced when no one offered them shelter, warmth or care...but why, God created EVERYONE, each and every one an unrepeatable MIRACLE!
I don't understand how anyone can look up, see the wonderment of the stars at night and not believe in God. That's what Carson would say when he experienced such wonderment in the seemingly unending night sky at his Uncle & Aunt's ranch!
Stop and think just how often we fail to acknowledge the Miraculous God that got us here!
And, how many times do we choose to walk by somebody who is God's Miracle, an unrepeatable miracle, created in His image, but struggles with a mental illness?
Noel! Come. Please come & see what the Lord has done...and what He wants to do thru you. 🙏
by Julie Brooks
We are slowly putting things back up on the walls. Sam (Nicole's husband) did such an incredible job with custom wood work and new paint in our Study.
Some things you just know you will always have hanging in your house; like this door Todd repainted gray yesterday.Carson, like all my kids and Todd know how much I love doors and windows.
It was the love Carson had for me, that he was so determined to get this full sized screen door (that was in someone's trash) in his little car. If you look closely, you will see the door has been sawed right down the middle.
Carson was a determined soul. He wasn't going to let having a small car stand in the way of bringing such a treasure home to his Mom!
The door is not finished. I have plans to hang some things inside of it.
But, this morning was a great morning...with the rain; to look at the door...and let my eyes rain down my face.
Tears...I believe God gives us...to release our pain.
I miss my boy.
This holiday season has been harder than in past years.
by Julie Brooks (originally from 10/23/21 Instagram Post)
It is so hard to believe
this sweet little Miracle named Carson
would be turning thirty today.
This week has been filled with memories from his birth, his growing up and so many other details
from the short years God leant him to us.
Suicide changes everything...
We love and miss you dearly, Carson! 💗
by Julie Brooks (April 14, 2017 Facebook Post)
These Easter egg soaps are almost finished. Just a little wrapping and bow tying.
Once again, I give GOD all the credit!I'll ask the Lord if anyone needs soap, HE can send them my way! HE is ALWAYS FAITHFUL to bring someone who needs gifts that are ready to give.
God is not a minute too soon or a minute too late. HE IS ALWAYS ON TIME!
It is amazing how HE has used my soap to brighten a stranger's smile.
HE says grab a bar of soap on your run to Walmart. Someone you see or meet needs to be pampered. Oh, the God stories that I could tell you in the 17 years I have made His soaps. How HIS hands have personally orchestrated the giving of HIS soaps!
On the back of the Heavenly Scent SoapSuds business card, Todd and I worked on a message of salvation, that the "dirt of the day" can be cleaned away with our Heavenly Scent soaps. But, we believe the message the Lord delivers instead can ultimately change the heart of the reader, a message meant for those with ears to hear that declares the Lord offers the Way to wash away all the sins of the world and become destined for an everlasting eternity with Him.
We used to say that when we get to Heaven, we will meet others that had received some of my soaps; planted seeds, with the message of salvation.
Carson was always so proud of my soap-making and loved to give it away to others.
God wants to use every little detail in our life to let others know Him, unlike the enemy, who wants us to just think that we are imagining the Holy Spirit using us in unique ways! I will punctuate that with a Hallelujah. ,💘💝
by Julie Brooks
(The original date of this Facebook post was 10/20/2017.)
This is one of my favorite pictures of Carson and Pierce.
They weren't just brothers. They shared the the same mental illnesses...bipolar and OCD.
They could relate to one another in a way that no one else in the family could understand; it was that kind of bond. Carson was diagnosed in 9th grade, and Pierce was diagnosed in 5th grade. Carson felt protective of Pierce in certain situations.
They went through two psychiatrists together. When we began visits to the second psychiatrist, whose office was on the 2nd floor, Carson would always wait for me at the bottom of the stairs until I was ready to go up. His fear that something would happen to me or our family was very real to him. I was the person he told everything to. He always wanted to tell me if he had done anything wrong.
The medicines prescribed by these psychiatrists unfortunately never stabilized Carson's bipolar illness. He always told us that he would never take his life because he knew how much pain it would cause the family. But, it was his pain that he could not get away from.
Some may think suicide is a selfish act, when a loved one takes their own life. So not true. We merely observe their suffering. They experience overwhelming and real mental anguish, great enough that their suicidal ideation turns into an irrational but final decision; the only way to stop their chronic suffering.
After Carson took his life, the Lord made a way for Pierce to begin seeing a third psychiatrist. And with this change, Pierce's bipolar & OCD are for the most part stable. Praise God!
Those who suffer from bipolar have different triggers that cause different levels of mood swings. Even the time change (Daylight Savings) is very difficult. Difficulty sleeping is something normally associated with bipolar, and can be very difficult to regulate. Those with bipolar are rarely able to enter the REM part of the sleep cycle. Medication is usually necessary for just this condition alone.
Pierce entered his 6th grade school year one month after Carson took his life. Our middle school did everything they could to make provisions for Pierce to come back to public school. I felt that I would never agree to homeschooling, that the LISD was the best for our children. But, the grieving and stress made Pierce's bipolar worse. It was very hard in the beginning, but I can honestly say I had the pleasure of homeschooling Pierce. It was a pleasure, and I have said it many times, it's because of the kids (especially with a mental illness) and the adults that had already braved the homeschooling way before me. They are my heroes. Their understanding is how I made it through each day.
One beautiful gift we still have of Carson's is a Thank You note he wrote to Pierce. It said, "Pierce, you are an amazing lil bro, you are my fuel to do better and I am very proud of you. Keep up the good work and keep with God." Carson wanted to be better. It was so sad to see him suffer.
#mentalhealtheducationisthekey #suicideawareness #hope4mh #hoperising #mentalillness
#lovethispictureofmyboys!
by Julie Brooks
(10/18/2019 Facebook Post)
I am continuing to share stories about Carson, leading up to his birthday 10-23-91. He would be turning 28 years old.
One of the difficult realities about loosing a child or loved one (especially to suicide) is you wonder during each future year...would he be married...children by now? I am pretty sure Carson would have reached both of those milestones.Carson loved family, and he was always so proud to tell people that Todd and I had been married for for so long.
Carson, his siblings and cousins loved visiting their MawMaw & Pawpaw in Temple, where Todd and I grew up. Everyone would play cards, board games or even a game of croquet.
My Mom would make big breakfasts; pancakes, waffles, French toast and other treats (they didn't get at home). Mom would always warn, especially Carson, that he was going to choke on the amount of powdered sugar he put on his waffles.
Carson enjoyed those times, but the return home was always returned him to the reality of the life he lived inside his unstable bipolar mind. There were few people he trusted, to really let into that painful part of his life. I am thankful Carson would come wake me, at any hour of the night, if he needed to talk. It was heartbreaking at times to feel his emotional pain, and to know that the people he thought would be there for him were not.
Perhaps the most important thing Carson taught me was to listen and trust, to always ask God to show me others the way He sees them...as unrepeatable Miracles. God sees them as He created them, with a purpose. Through God's guidance, it is up to us to help them discover their purpose.
I miss you Carson. Sometimes tears are the only way I can express how much I miss your presence! 💘
The LORD has called me to listen and minister to those that others can't or won't reach out to! I am dangerously surrendered to the LORD...SEND ME! ❤
As the official day to celebrate Fathers' Day comes to an end, I wanted to share a picture that is hanging in my closet. My closet is an art museum full of all 5 kids' artwork. (ran out of space on the refrigerator)
Be it not for the grace of Jesus Christ, I would be undone.
I taught our kids to pray about doctor appointments, stomach aches, headaches, upcoming tests at school, something they had lost and couldn't find...anything...everything.
It is a very lonely calling, but I know there is HOPE, where God is opening doors for hurting people.
This July 12th will be 8 years since our boy took his own life. No matter how long it has been, it will always be painful, sometimes more than other times.
Today, as I was driving to my Mom and Dad's house in Temple, I had no idea that it would be an extended 3-hour trip in the car alone with the Lord! And, in those 3 hours, I loved how God showed me so many random Miracle Minutes! I hope you can follow me on this journey.
I think they are very neat, and they also take you places.
He must have thought they were very special, since He collects them in bottles. I believe God is into recycling those tears, because each tear we shed takes with it just a bit of the pain we endure missing our loved one.
Of course, I also love that there is a Greyhound in the picture. Look how much fun he is having with something we usually complain about having to rake up...leaves.